Is my wife mess'in with my head?

Well, there seem to be a lot of things wrong here. First of all, she shouldn't have made you promise that you won't watch . It's such a natural thing for men. It's like breathing. You are going to watch it again, but the bad thing is you'll feel guilty/wrong for doing so. That's not fair that she put that on you. Second of all, neither of you should be able to control what the other does (ie. her with you and , you with her and social networking sites). It's such a natural thing to have something like that. I understand where you are coming from (with old bfs, and guy friends, etc) but that's where trust comes in. You both should sit down and talk these things through, because you may not think so, but eventually these things will cause a lot of problems in your marriage. Hell, they already are. Tell her to cease fire on the revenge for thing, and work things out. Compromise and come to an understanding, otherwise you'll start sleeping with one eye open, wondering what she's doing. I'm sure you want to live peacefully. So just talk to her.